This financial infidelity may be as small as a visit to a retro-bar by a man or to the salon by a woman but the degree of infidelity does not nullify the cheat.
The money secrets that partners keep from their better halves, takes many forms – ranging from harmless and idiosyncratic, to hurtful and destructive. Most partners have indulged in it at some point or the other. The sad part about monetary cheating is that, very often, it is so subtle that people don’t know they’re engaging in it, yet it can be just as devastating when it is finally out in the open.
Sometimes, this can also be well intentioned. Somya Mohanty, a human resource executive, says, “I have secretly saved money to surprise my husband. I know he always spends too much and that is the reason I have not told him about this extra cash.” The reason for the monetary cheating here, may not be a bad one but it still is cheating, though a mild form. This kind of behaviour may lead to mistrust in the partner later and the overall health of the relationship may suffer because of this say experts.
It is worth noting here that financial cheating with a sense of guilt is infidelity while an open and honest communication to save money to surprise the spouse is good enough to be termed as a trustworthy communication.